About
Rabbi Dr. Noam Weinberg
A rabbi, an educator, a school leader and a mentor, who has spent three decades sitting with people through the defining moments of their lives.
In my own words
How I ended up with a method.
I am Rabbi Dr. Noam Weinberg. For three decades I have sat with people through the defining moments of their lives, as a rabbi, an educator, a school leader and a mentor. I am a child and grandchild of Holocaust survivors.
Most of that happened at the point where people had run out of their own ideas. I watched marriages come apart and I watched families stop speaking.
Everyone called what I was seeing communication problems. They were not. Most relationship problems are not caused by a lack of love. They are caused by what people do when love feels threatened: they pursue, withdraw, defend, over-explain, or try to get the other person to change so that they can finally feel all right.
Once I stopped treating the argument as the problem, cases that had been stuck for years started moving in weeks. My job stopped being to work out who was right. It became helping someone notice what was happening inside them, settle themselves without making everyone else responsible for it, and then choose how they wanted to show up.
The method I built out of that has brought couples to their engagement, pulled marriages back from the edge, and put families back in the same room.
For thirty years it stayed inside my practice. This is the first time I am teaching it to anyone else.
Training and credentials
- Doctorate in education, focus on adolescent psychology and religious development
- Master's, marriage and family therapy
- Master's, secondary education and school administration
- Post-graduate certificate, non-profit management, Columbia University
- Rabbinic ordination, RIETS
- Certified life coach
- Certified, ACT trauma therapy
- Trained in Bowen family systems and narrative therapy
Where to go from here
The method
How I think about what is actually going wrong between two people, and the question I want somebody to be able to ask themselves.
For professionals
The certification, for practitioners who want to run this method in their own work.